This hard-hitting and innovative book about partnered relationship immediately challenges the deceptions about love and intimacy rampant in today's patriarchal culture. At the same time, Building Love That Lasts reveals a step-by-step process for discovering and living out alternative possibilities. The author claims that even the best of our relationships are still generally basic level; what he calls "Ordinary Human Relationship." He asserts that two more domains remain to be explored: namely, Extraordinary Human Relationship and Archetypal Love. The book describes exactly how to enter these new domains, and how to stay there long enough to cultivate genuine intimacy, nurturance, excitement and satisfaction together. The material for this book is startlingly original and fresh, directly distilled from over thirty years of trial, error and reevaluation within seminars and trainings conducted by the author in the U.S. and Europe. The essential teaching tools are "Thought-Maps" that illustrate and guide the dynamics of evolving relationship, coupled with a series of experiments/"explorations" to be undertaken alone or with one's partner. Topics include: Making the leap from Defensive Learning to Expansive Learning. Breaking out of the relationship "Box." The lie of being unlovable. Navigating in the realm of feelings. Communication skills for "explorers.