A heartfelt celebration and exploration of the tomboy phenomenon and the future of girlhood, based on the author's viral New York Times op-ed.
We are in the middle of a cultural revolution, where the spectrum of gender and sexual identities is seemingly unlimited. So when author and journalist Lisa Selin Davis's six-year-old daughter first called herself a "tomboy," Davis was hesitant. Her child favored sweatpants and T-shirts over anything pink or princess-themed, just like the sporty, skinned-kneed girls Davis had played with as a kid. But "tomboy" seemed like an outdated word--why use a word with "boy" in it for such girls at all? So was it outdated? In an era where some are throwing elaborate gender reveal parties and others are embracing they/them pronouns, Davis set out to answer that question, and to find out where tomboys fit into our changing understandings of gender.
In Tomboy, Davis explores the evolution of tomboyism from a Victorian ideal to a twenty-first century fashion statement, honoring the girls and women--and those who identify otherwise--who stomp all over archaic gender norms. She highlights the forces that have shifted what we think of as masculine and feminine, delving into everything from clothing to psychology, history to neuroscience, and the connection between tomboyism, gender identity, and sexuality. Above all else, Davis's comprehensive deep-dive inspires us to better appreciate those who defy traditional gender boundaries, and the incredible people they become.
Whether you're a grown-up tomboy or raising a gender-rebel of your own, Tomboy is the perfect companion for navigating our cultural shift. It is a celebration of both diversity and those who dare to be different, ultimately revealing how gender nonconformity is a gift.
About the Author
Lisa Selin Davis is an essayist, novelist, and journalist who has written for major publications such as the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Guardian, Time, Yahoo!, and Salon, among many others. She lives in Brooklyn, New York, with her husband and kids.
*PUBLISHERS WEEKLY, STARRED REVIEW*
"Hooray for gender rebels!"—Peggy Orenstein, New York Times bestselling author of Girls & Sex
"[A] thorough and engrossing investigation... Davis's persuasive and deeply personal argument for moving beyond the gender binary will resonate with those curious about child rearing free of normative expectations."—Publishers Weekly, starred review
is a revelation, an impassioned and empathic consideration of how gender is
manufactured and sold, and how it can both oppress and empower. This is way
more than a book for parents navigating how to raise individuals in a world of
stubborn binaries; it's for all of us who want to understand that world, and
how we might become our true selves within it."—Lauren Sandler, author of This Is All I Got: A New Mother's Search for Home and One and Only: The Freedom of Having an Only Child, and the Joy of Being One
"As I read this book, I felt at turns challenged and surprised and at turns comforted-as a tomboy in the 80s, I saw myself on the pages and understood where I had come from and the forces that shaped me. As someone who currently teaches gender inclusion at schools across the country, I can't wait to use this book in the presentations I give. It will really help teachers and parents understand not just tomboys but gender. But it isn't just an informative and useful book; it's exciting and compelling as well."—Alex Myers, author of Revolutionary and Continental Divide
"Lisa Selin Davis uses TOMBOY
as a launch pad for a thought-provoking and enlightening exploration of the
troubled pink and blue waters of gender categories-and the words that can be
life rafts to help us float above them or stones pulling us in deeper."—Deborah Tannen, professor of linguistics at Georgetown University and author of You Just Don't Understand, You're Wearing THAT?, and You're the Only One I Can Tell
"This book will surprise,
delight, and challenge everything you think you know about gender. Davis's
writing is lively and lucid; a sage and compassionate guide on this rocky
terrain. Every parent needs to read this book."—Jennifer Block, author of Everything Below the Waist
thoughtful, thorough examination and celebration of gender non-conformity, and
a crucial contribution to our cultural understanding of this moment, and how we
got here."—Liz Plank, author of FOR THE LOVE OF MEN
a unique, contradictory moment in history: male and female binaries are
exploding yet childhood has become more hyper-gendered than ever. How did we
get here? What does it mean? I picked up this book expecting to read a few
pages; hours later I was still riveted, underlining paragraphs, scribbling
margin notes and rethinking all my assumptions about boys, girls and everyone
along or beyond that spectrum. Hooray for gender rebels!"—Peggy Orenstein, New York Times bestselling author of Girls & Sex
"An informative jumping-off point for further investigation."—Kirkus
"[A] fascinating book that has resulted [explores] the concept of the
tomboy from Victorian times to today's world, where considerations of gender
are front and center."—Booklist