I sought this book out after hearing the author interviewed on The Nerdette podcast. Normally, I have a dismissive opinion of self-help books, but Sarah Mirk's methodology caught my interest: she sent out a call for people in non-traditional relationships, the kind that aren't covered in your standard dating-advice column, and asked for what they learned after navigating utterly uncharted waters.
The results came from people in homosexual relationships, open relationships, couples deciding not to have children, single parents, heterosexual relationships with a man with breast implants; from men, women, transgenders, feminists, transsexuals, the elderly...from anyone who has ever had to experience love without a map.
Told in alternating chapters of contributor's essays and short bits of accumulated advice, this is a book full of useful thoughts on the nature of relationships. Whether you're highly unorthodox or in the most vanilla marriage of all time, there's something in this book for everyone to learn. ~ Reviewed by Katelynne Shimkus